In the past, we presented the roles and responsibilities of the groom as it relates the wedding ceremony. Today, we cover another important role; that of a maid/matron of honor (MOH)!
Congrats if you are the MOH for that special bride! The MOH is the prime position among the bridal attendants.
You were most likely chosen to be the MOH because of your trusted friendship, energetic, hardworking, listening, laugh inducing, emotional and logistical support qualities. The bride considers you her closest, truest friend, and believes that you will be there for her throughout the wedding planning process. You’ll be acting as her personal assistant and adviser; ensuring all the bride’s needs are met on her big day and that she consistently looks flawless and stress-free.
You’ll be the one to follow her when it comes to dress shopping (if you can make it) for the bridesmaids and herself. You are also one of the designated people (again if you can make it) to follow her on her test runs and fittings (makeup, hair etc)
As the MOH, it’s your duty to direct the other bridesmaids. You are responsible for ensuring they get their dresses, and applicable accessories while providing for and assisting in organizing the pre-wedding parties (bachelorette, bridal shower etc). You may need to help co-ordinate transportation and lodging if necessary to ensure the bridal party make it wherever they need to be on time (rehearsal, engagement ceremony, ceremony etc).
If there are gifts received at any of the pre-wedding parties, you can either assign the task of keeping track of this to another bridesmaid or do it yourself
Similarly, as the MOH , you should offer to help the bride with pre-wedding tasks ranging from choosing the wedding color, venues, cake, invites and many more. Help wherever you are needed from registry, planning and any questions.
Most importantly, ON THE DAY of the wedding, here are your duties
• Make sure all bridesmaids get their hair and makeup done, get to the ceremony on time and have the correct accessories
• Hold the groom’s ring during the ceremony. Safest place to put this is on your thumb
• Arrange the bride’s train and veil. Pay attention to specific moments: Just before the ceremony commences and right after she arrives at the altar
• Hold the bride’s bouquet while the couple exchange their vows
• Sign the marriage license as a witness alongside the best man
• Ensure the bride eats — get her a drink, plate of food or instruct the wait staff to attend to her and her husband ☺
• Make a toast to the couple and share some words (hopefully good, fun, touching yet not embarrassing) about the bride
• Attend to any emotional, makeup, or wardrobe crisis that may occur. Make sure you have lots of tissues handy
Did I mention that you were going to be acting as a personal assistant?! 🙂 Enjoy and rejoice with your friend!!! Remember to keep her smiling!