Wedding Etiquette: Who Pays For What?


August 8, 2013 at 9:39 pm

I got married to a Nigerian and never got as much as a card congratulating us from our Nigerian guests…yet the same rude people had the nerve to ask if we could invite their friends we never even met at 100 dollars a person but couldnt give a card. Disgusting. Its a wedding not a bbq.

    August 9, 2013 at 10:57 am

    Sincerely sorry to hear about your ordeal. Nigerians are notorious for trying to invite friends and friends of friends to a wedding you invite them to. This is the reason why people now enforce strict by invitation attendance with guards at the door to check. I totally feel your pain but also wedding is traditionally a community event and celebration of the union of two people. However, in a country like America, where you are paying per head, the costs racks up very fast and we all know the dollar for example is worth more than Naira.

    Even if they didn’t give you a card, I hope they at least sprayed (or made it rain) during your reception! Nowadays, people are moving away from buying cards and gifts and go for monetary donations instead (either directly in cash or by cheque) or they make it rain on the dance floor.

    Either way, I hope you had an amazing day and still love us, your dearest Naija family 🙂

February 5, 2017 at 5:01 pm

I’m sorry, please which Nigeria are you referring to? Where in Nigeria dies the bride’s family pay for all these things you wrote?
And who even told you that this is how it is divided?
Please, do your research well, and if you don’t want to, at least write a disclaimer that you are only stating your personal views and not those of Nigerians of any tribe, not to talk of the whole country.
This your list is European in style and is so off, it doesn’t even come close to what is the done thing

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