RSVP for Naija Wedding Ke? LaiLai

I have attended my share of weddings and hope to attend more and one thing that remains constant across these events is the rising cost associated with them.

Except you are rich and swimming in money or have someone to pay for your wedding 100%, chances are that you’ll have a budget and try to stick with it. However, the expenses associated with these events can quickly add up and break the bank. Some take out loans to plan a wedding. To each his/her own but no way in the world would I do that. Once I meet my RICH prince charming who’ll pay for the wedding (Who am I kidding), budget costs would be the last thing on my mind.

There are many ways to cut cost but the most common and obvious one to date is reducing the number of attendees. The dreaded “Strictly By Invitation” weddings which requires people to RSVP. Though some do this for exclusivity and to have their closest friends only, majority do it to drive the cost of the wedding down. After all, the more mouths to feed and accommodate, the higher the cost.

This trend now common with Nigerian weddings has become a topic of discussion. We all know how one person is invited to an event, and ends up coming with an army of friends. There’s no doubt that you’ll offend people and even when you include a stamped envelope or even an online RSVP website, most Nigerians REFUSE to RSVP. I know this for a fact as I have seen people do it. The ones that RSVP are even not guaranteed to show either.

I’ve heard reasons from “A wedding is a thing of joy and celebration. Why should they make it strictly by invitation” to perhaps the one that irks me the most: “It’s not in our culture”.

Is it in our culture to be debtors? Is it in our culture to plan such lavish weddings only to go home with no money in the bank and have to soak garri and water (nothing wrong with garri)?

What do you think?

Should Naija weddings be one that is free for all?

Should the cost associated with weddings be ignored just to please the large audience who care about nothing but your food, music and the money “sprayed” on the dance floor?

Is it truly not in our culture to restrict the number of wedding attendees?

Would you enforce or did you enforce a “Strictly by Invitation” type wedding?

What do you think? Leave a comment and let us know!

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  1. Zegzy, 6 years ago

    Free for all? Heck No. Who is going to foot the bill when the wedding is over and we are soaking garri? Nigerians need to understand that weddings are EXPENSIVE so please don’t be upset when you are not invited or not allowed in because u did not RSVP. To those who go to weddings without an invitation, shame on you!

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  2. Chris, 6 years ago

    A lot of people will crash the wedding if its free for all. I think RSVP is still the best route to go. Unless that individual is RICH then why not free for all…..

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  3. Nutella, 6 years ago

    My wedding is in September this year and it is strictly by invitation. Once guests RSVP (we will call them up if they refuse to RSVP), they will be assigned table numbers. We don’t want to have a sea of strangers or people who mean nothing to us at our wedding. And on top of that, we wont be incurring debts or stressing our economy because of uninvited/unwanted guests. And our families are in support of this.
    Maybe this needs to be the norm in Nigeria so that young couples who want to get married can do so with minimal stress. How does a couple just starting out life cater to 500 guests or more? Not happening in my case.

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    • admin, 6 years ago

      Congrats Nutella on your upcoming big day! I feel you but you know why do we have to call people up? I mean, what’s so wrong is them RSVPing themselves. The same happened to people I know. First you send them RSVP, next thing, you are calling around to see their response. Some people will be in for it one day when they fail to RSVP (no one calls them up) and are denied entry into the wedding venue. I want to be there when such happens, LOL.

      500 guests is a lot. I want a small wedding in my case (destination wedding too!) but no way am I catering to 500 guests except someone wants to pay for my wedding!!! 😀

      @Nutella, don’t forget to refer your vendors to us and if they are on the site already, please review and rate them 😀

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  4. Miss D, 5 years ago

    lol. In Nigeria, if you invite 1000, cater for 2000, especially if you are in Lagos and you are apopular jingo. Many people are chosing destination weddings and other such things. some people outrightly bounce univited guests.

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