Ask AANW: Is This Arrangement (Order of Wedding Events) Wrong?

I will be getting married next month. I intend having the church wedding first in the morning, before proceeding for the engagement ceremony/ reception immediately after. But my challenge is that people are raising eyebrows to the arrangement. They feel it’s usually the other way round. Though i know, but i chose this arrangement because i find engagement ceremony usually very interesting. Please what do you think about this arrangement? Thanks

– Bose

Hi Bose,

Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials!! Though going against the cultural norm, your arrangement isn’t necessarily wrong. For me as well, the wedding ceremony is my favorite part of the entire Nigerian wedding process. It’s a lot of fun. I like the arrangement though the cultural norm is to have the engagement ceremony before the church wedding. However, the engagement ceremony is nothing more than a traditional wedding ceremony. That being said, there are pros and cons to this. Cost wise, this would save you a lot of money; rather than having two parties (engagement and reception), you’ll have one! A combined feast if you ask me! Since most people tend to come to the reception anyway and time their arrival to your ceremony around when the reception is about to start, chances are you could start the engagement/reception ceremony on time as well! 🙂

However, logistically, there are a number of things or factors to make sure you are considering.

1. Location of engagement/reception venue relative to the church: How far are they apart? Have you considered possible traffic and road blocks? How would the distance affect the start time of the engagement/reception ceremony?

2. Start/End time of the entire ceremony: Do you think you can fit the entire agenda of the ceremony within the opening time of the venue?

3. FOOD FOOD FOOD!: How do you intend to feed your guests during what I presume will be a very long ceremony, granted they are coming from church as well? Do you have arrangements for Hors d’oeuvre or light snacks and drinks to keep their bellies from rumbling before it’s time to eat towards the middle or end of the ceremony?

These are some considerations for you. However, there’s nothing wrong with your arrangement. I say go for it!!! As always, if you have any questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to let us know


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